Coping up with still births

A woman forgets the stress and trauma of labour as she hears her baby cry for the first time. She feels that no sweeter music has ever fallen on her ears. But if it happens to be a still birth, the physical torture gets magnified by the mental agony that she undergoes. Not only her mind, but also her body might have prepared itself to nurture the child.

Vaginal bleeding will take place during the first few weeks. Period-like pain is also likely to occur. If by any chance, the vaginal discharge gets intensified, then it should certainly be brought under the gynecologist’s care.

Another constant reminder of the loss you suffered will be your breast. You are likely to lactate. Stagnant milk is sure to make you most uncomfortable. The relief provided by medication is however not a permanent one. That is why many women avoid taking medicines and let their milk dry up in normal course. In such cases, it is better to turn to natural tips that help in fastening the process.

When you are taken to the hospital next time, (usually after six weeks) you can ask your doctor the possible reasons for the mishap. Scope for future pregnancy can also be discussed. If you wish, the post mortem report will also be made available during this visit. Do not consider the loss as a personal one; it is actually the family’s loss. Accept comfort and support extended by family members. Ample rest is most necessary and you should not return to work before your body is ready. The scope for further pregnancy will be based on the kind of stillbirth that occurred to your first baby. Women vary in their mindsets regarding the next baby. While some find even the thought of another baby as an intolerable one, some others find it as their only possible solace. However, have patience to give your body the time it needs to get back to normalcy.


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